Erika enjoys seeing her mother around the holidays. There are so many memories to share, like the fresh Christmas trees Erika’s mother always insisted on buying (although Erika remembers with a special fondness the artificial white tree with kaleidoscope lights that came home one year). And the baking, which her mother still loves to do. Erika’s entire family eagerly anticipates her mom’s home-made holiday cookies, cakes, pies, fudge, and those fluffy, melt-in-your-mouth yeast rolls.
There is something else Erika does each year in anticipation of the holidays. She and her sister coordinate their holiday planning to make sure they meet their mother’s fall and winter needs. Like many long-term care recipients, their mom experiences seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Throughout the season, Erika and her sister work to help their mom cope and find new ways to participate in the holidays.
What is SAD?
SAD is a type of depression that tends to occur as the days grow shorter in the fall and winter. After Erika’s father passed away some years ago and her mother’s health declined, Erika noticed her mom showing signs and symptoms of SAD each September as daylight hours waned. Her mom has also said how closed-in and isolated she feels when she can’t go outside because of bad weather or when she doesn’t get a lot of visitors.
Does this sound familiar? Do you look after a family member or friend affected this way by fall and winter? Here’s what Erika’s family does to help her mother cope with the symptoms of SAD each year. Maybe these tips could work for your loved one, too:
- Drapes are kept open during all daylight hours.
- Lights are kept on in whatever room Erika’s mom is sitting in to make it appear brighter.
- Cousins and extended family make sure to visit, especially from November through January. Erika’s brother takes his four weeks of vacation in December to be with their mom.
- Relatives and friends stop by with samples of their homemade holiday treats.
- Erika’s mom is kept well-stocked with holiday and all-occasion cards to send to people so she feels connected to anyone she doesn’t get to see.
- Everyone has fun reminiscing and looking at photo albums. The indoor winter months are a great time to learn more about family history and stories. Putting special pictures on the refrigerator or in a central place in the home makes everyone smile.
- Erika encourages her mother to tell her where to put holiday decorations so she is involved with the planning.
- Erika gets her mom to coach her as she tries to recreate her mother’s famous yeast rolls. (She’ll never forget seeing her mother teach her 50-year-old-brother how to make his first peach pie and mix his first batch of rolls!)
Whenever she gets to see the spark in her mother’s eyes—like when her mom is deciding on decorations or gift selections or taking charge in the kitchen—Erika feels grateful. The conscious effort she and her family have made to help her mother keep SAD from controlling her life has helped everyone not only enjoy the old memories, but create new ones to cherish for years to come.
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